“Thinking of people one way or another, whether you are aware of it or not, is sending them messages, which they receive, for sure. You would not send an unkind letter or e-mail to someone. Would you? Of course not, never, even if he or she wronged you. You may write a letter or e-mail the moment you are angry, but you are able to refrain from sending it after calming down and quieting yourself. We are all aware of this. What you and I are not aware of is that, when we harbor bad thoughts—a grudge against someone—we are sending that person a “t-mail,” a telepathic mail against our will. That is why, when someone is mad at us for seemingly no reason, he or she is only replying consciously or unconsciously to the bad thoughts we sent him or her. However, there are times when a person could be mad at us personally, as if we had done something wrong to him, when someone or something else is bothering him that has nothing to do with us whatsoever. In other words, his anger is not directed personally against us; that is to say, “we are not the target.” (Laura Huxley. You Are Not the Target. New York: Marlowe & Company, 1998.)
We do not realize that we are bombarding each other constantly with all sorts of t-mails that could be extremely harmful. This is how wars start. They generate first in our minds by sending t-mails of hate to each other, before sending missiles to hit and destroy one another. Let us forget all about Internet, the Web, and e-mail for a while and start doing something about t-mail and all the damage it is causing us. Only computer owners, and only when they are connected to the Internet, have access to electronic mail, whereas everybody, with no exception, has access to telepathic mail. Therefore, it is more worldwide and quicker. For example, when we want to send a letter, first we make the decision, then we write it and mail it. We do the same thing with e-mail. We write it and click send to dispatch it, whereas with t-mail, our thoughts are delivered automatically as we formulate them in our minds, with no awareness, most of the time, on our part.”(1)
If someone gets mad at you, don’t be vengeful. Instead, be kind to him. Don’t forget
That something or someone else may be bothering him, i.e., you are not the target.
When he hurts you, you won’t hurt him back. You say peace_
And you certainly won’t fall apart, but you stay in one piece.
No matter how hurt, don't hold grudge. That makes you suffer more. It's healthier to forgive.
Keep on repeating ‘I forgive’ until you feel really at peace. Not only an impression you give.
Even if you think it is impossible at the beginning, say ‘I forgive’. Repeat it often.
In the final analysis, you’ll be amazed. Without realizing it, your heart will soften.
(1) Nacereddine, Abdallah . To Be Oneself: The Tragicomedy of an Unfinished
Life History. Bloomington, IN: AuthorHouse, 2008. Vol. 2, pages 522-523.